Rejection…yes it is redirection and God’s protection, but frankly that does not help change the hurt.
The thing about rejection is we tend to make it all about ourselves and not in a healthy way. We can get ourselves to a place of low self esteem and worthiness to full on self hate.
I am currently struggling through a rejection season in practically all aspects of my life . I caught myself in the negative feedback loops of what if’s and if I only was more x,y,z then things would be different. I was starting to fall into a victim/pitiful mindset.
You can internalize and make the rejection about you by choosing to be better , not bitter. Choosing to see it as protection, redirection and the following these steps:
Be accountable for your actions or lack of
Look for the lessons from the experience
Express gratitude for the experience- do so in a journal, letter or to the person
Do not compare yourself to others, comparison is the thief of joy
Take care of your body- eat healthy, sleep and get movement in
Take care of your mind- affirmations, devotions/prayers , read
Do things that make you feel confident and empowered
Lean on those who lift you up
Avoid romanticizing the relationship/ job / friendship that ended (delicate balance when looking for the lessons and giving gratitude)
Most importantly give yourself grace as you process through the emotions
Do you have any other tips?
*Advice based off of personal experiences and knowledge gained from a variety of books.
Have you ever felt like you lost yourself?Perhaps you felt you were at rock bottom or completely broken?
That was me 12 weeks ago. I felt like I was stuck in a lifestyle I knew I didn’t want, but had no way out. I felt so much pain, anger, resentment and honestly had a victim mentality.
Today I am a different person. I noticed, my friends and my manager all pointed out my attitude and presence have shifted.
My question for you is, are you unhappy? Do you want to change? Are you ready to do the work?
If the answer is yes, I want to refer you to the ElevateU program. This program undoubtedly changed my life. In the program you will work with this gorgeous gal, Allison Vaeth to seek your truth to elevate your life.
ElevateU is much more than just a workout and meal plan. This program focuses on daily tasks to help shift from a fixed mindset to a growth mindset.
Ally is much more than an online fitness coach. Ally truly is a mindset mentor/coach. She poses the questions that make you think and get to the root of your actions.
What can you expect from ElevateU? Expect to dig deep to work on your mind, body and spirit with intention. Being intentional will lead to effective change and growth.
ElevateU brought the light back out of me. I am finally feeling like my old self, but a better version! I am back to being a happy, positive and energetic woman. A ray of sunshine as I’ve been told 😊.
On a high level, below are some of the ways I’ve grown from ElevateU:
I am more aware of my energy and my intentions.
I have forgiven myself for the past and I am accepting that I am worthy.
I am now treating my mind and body the way it deserved all along. I understand my triggers for falling into unhealthy eating habits with no exercise and can now address it quickly.
Most of all I gained a support group of like minded people to help cheer me on!
Just look at this incredible group, full of joy and positive energy! We also have several incredible souls not pictured!
Boy 2020 has been intense! Moving states, squatting at different family and friend’s homes, hitting my breaking point, breakup , purchasing a home and 1 final move from 4 different spaces… also can’t forget about a pandemic, civil injustice and protests+riots.
A lot has happened in our country and worldwide in the past 3 months. This post is about what has been happening in my world for the last 6 months. I have had lots of personal transitions that I wanted to update you on.
I’m so grateful to be back home in Indiana! My time in Tennessee was really difficult as I ended up having severe allergies to my new environment. My year in Nashville lead to 7 doctor visits, lots of different prescriptions and 100 plus needle pricks in allergy testing. Only option left was to attempt shots that would take 2-5 years to build up my system for relief. My eyes would swell shut after 2 weeks, which as you can imagine it presented issues. I would drive back home to IN after 1-1.5 weeks in Nashville to heal then head back and repeat.
Fortunately I was able to stay with my company and take over a new territory starting in April. I finalized my travel in Tennessee in early March when COVID started to get more serious.
From my Tennessee travels I then flew out to San Diego, CA. While in CA announcements of businesses closing due to COVID began and I changed flights to return sooner for fear of being stuck in CA. When returning, my forced quarantine ended up being an eye opening blessing that lead to so many possibilities!
I did hit my absolute lowest point, which you can either stay down or pull yourself back up. I have God on my side and he showed me so many back to back blessings and I’m so grateful.
God’s 1st blessing was to present me with Ally Vaeth’s ElevateU Bootcamp challenge which was a great insight to her program. I am now in her ElevateU program and learning so much about Mind, Body and Spirit! Another post dedicated to this topic to follow!
My next blessing was timing. I have been looking at houses and they kept selling prior to arriving to the showing. A house in the area I had been looking posted at 10:00pm on a Friday at the end of March and I had an offer on it before Midnight. I made the decision to offer based on the images posted on Zillow (no idea of the floor plan), advice from my realtor and faith that my prayer were answered. I did get to see the house the next morning and I updated my offer in hopes to secure it! My quick judgment worked in my favor because they chose my offer, even though they had multiple offers. Next blessing was no bid war !
During the time of waiting to close on my house my Aunt randomly text me (another God blessing) offering to stay at the cabin since the numbers in Marion county for COVID were spiking. She was giving me an option to help stay healthy, but she really gave me a chance to reclaim inner peace. The cabin is my happy place that makes me feel calm and grounded.
During the pandemic God created so many possibilities for me. I am now a homeowner again, working on my mental , spiritual and physical health, growing my Mary Kay business and back in a territory I love for my job. I am grateful!
*This post is not intended to dismiss the magnitude of the pandemic. I truly feel for those who have been impacted. I have deeply missed my family and friends . I am beyond grateful for my health, as well as for those who I hold dear. I am choosing to reflect on the positives that occurred during these unusual times.
This decade has been filled with change, pain, joy and so much growth.
In this decade I graduated from college, moved 8 times, bought and sold my first home, married and divorced, got my fur baby, a few job changes, started my blog and Mary Kay business, lots of travel, many new friendships and said goodbye to some loved ones.
Several things didn’t turn out like I had planned, yet some turned out better than imagined . The good and the bad are all part of God’s plan.
Highlights from this past decade:
Several beautiful weddings and celebrations filled with love!
Love and marriage led to lots of precious babies… seriously my friends make some cute kids!
Moved 8 times Terre Haute -French Lick- Medina- Richmond-Indy apartment- First Home in Indy- Fishers- Nashville
I played hostess with the mostest
I was a jet setter to 3 countries and 29 states! Total state count is 33 with the goal of 50 by 50.
Blessed with inspiring, strong, loving and supportive women #squad
Lessons – graduation to real world, dog mom, exploring new cities, golfing, fishing with an open face reel, fitness, overcoming obstacles, welcoming new experiences, and being grateful for every moment with my loved ones.
Began my Mary Kay business and started to regain my confidence
Overall top 3 lessons:
Put it in God’s hands
Show grace, gratitude and kindness towards yourself and others
Cheers to the decade that shaped me.
I’m looking forward to a bright future full of love , grace and gratitude!
Have you ever been so uncomfortable that you felt like your life was spiraling out of control? Well, that is how I have been feeling for a few months now and the impact is not good.
My reality check today was being told “stop being so negative, it is not a good look on you”. The comment honestly made me a little mad at first due to the billion things on my mind that has impacted me, but then I opened my eyes.
My move and experience has not gone as expected. I have been faced with far more challenges than I could have ever anticipated. I have flipped my life upside down and basically ever aspect of my life has changed. I am very uncomfortable. Being uncomfortable is scary and hard, which has lead to far too many complaints and self doubt.
I realize I need to lift myself up, face challenges one day at a time and lean on my support system. My support system is the only aspect of my life that has not changed. Currently I have only been able to find comfort in my support system and daily devotions. I pray that I soon find comfort in my job and new environment.
My last post I mentioned my health goal this year is focusing on my mental health. A big part of what I have been focusing on is self awareness along with reflection. Being self aware can be hard and having loved ones point out the truth to me has been a blessing.
Recognize the blessings in your life and embrace uncomfortable change. I know I am going through this for a reason, even though that reason is not clear yet.
I introduced you to my mindset of goals vs resolutions in my 2018 Goals post.
Before I share my new 2019 goals I will update you on how I did in 2018.
My 2018 goals are listed below:
Minimum of 60 minutes of cardio each week: Completed for majority of the year and fell off track towards the end of the year
Strive for 7-9 hours of sleep each night: I didn’t do a good job tracking, but feel I may have averaged closer to 6 hours a night.
Read and learn more about blogging: I joined Indy Blog Society and met up with an Indy blogger to learn more .
Visit 2 new states: Visited San Diego, CA in January and road tripped through OK in December.
Quarterly try something new that is outside of my comfort zone : First Quarter tried Thai food, 2nd quarter learned how to fish with open face fishing reel, 3rd quarter learned how to back a boat trailer and 4th quarter sold my first house.
I have a lot of change happening in 2019. I have big news…. I am moving to Nashville, TN.
I will be relocating for my company to handle the middle Tennessee territory. I know the opportunity for my career is great, but I am still sad to say goodbye to my loved ones in Indianapolis.
My goals for 2019 will be focused on my mental and emotional health. I struggled a lot in 2018 in these areas and expect more struggle with all the upcoming change.
I plan on journaling at least weekly. I will be focusing on my thoughts and feelings to continuously grow.
Learn a new territory and new system at work
Read a page a day of 365 Moments of Peace for a Woman’s Heart
Travel to 1 new state and possibly another country