Rejection…yes it is redirection and God’s protection, but frankly that does not help change the hurt.
The thing about rejection is we tend to make it all about ourselves and not in a healthy way. We can get ourselves to a place of low self esteem and worthiness to full on self hate.
I am currently struggling through a rejection season in practically all aspects of my life . I caught myself in the negative feedback loops of what if’s and if I only was more x,y,z then things would be different. I was starting to fall into a victim/pitiful mindset.
You can internalize and make the rejection about you by choosing to be better , not bitter. Choosing to see it as protection, redirection and the following these steps:
- Be accountable for your actions or lack of
- Look for the lessons from the experience
- Express gratitude for the experience- do so in a journal, letter or to the person
- Do not compare yourself to others, comparison is the thief of joy
- Take care of your body- eat healthy, sleep and get movement in
- Take care of your mind- affirmations, devotions/prayers , read
- Do things that make you feel confident and empowered
- Lean on those who lift you up
- Avoid romanticizing the relationship/ job / friendship that ended (delicate balance when looking for the lessons and giving gratitude)
- Most importantly give yourself grace as you process through the emotions
Do you have any other tips?
*Advice based off of personal experiences and knowledge gained from a variety of books.